Couples Therapy
& Relationship Therapy
Support when intimate relationships feel stuck, strained, or painful, and when existing ways of relating no longer serve the people involved.
I work with couples and diverse relationship constellations – including polycules, triads, and people in consensually non-monogamous relationships. In this context, couples therapy is understood as relationship counselling, and is offered online and in person in Berlin, as well as online in English for people based internationally.
See each other’s inner worlds with more empathy, allowing you to respond with choice rather than falling into automatic, protective patterns
Find safety to talk openly and honestly about things that feel vulnerable or difficult to name out loud
Develop ways of staying tethered to one another when conversations become charged, tender, or intense
Strengthen your relationship through transitions, stress, or change
(Re)discover a deep, vibrant emotional and physical connection
Move past the circular arguments and finally understand the deeper emotional triggers happening underneath
Understand why minor interactions escalate quickly into shutdown, anger, or defensiveness
Stop editing yourself or staying quiet to keep the peace, only to find that the distance between you is growing
Transition from feeling miles apart while sitting in the same room to feeling truly seen, heard, and emotionally met
Build trust, safety, or connection after rupture, betrayal, or a painful transition
The purpose of couples therapy is not to determine who is right or wrong, or to fix one person for the sake of the relationship.
Instead, couples therapy creates a space to slow down and understand what is happening within the relationship system: the emotional patterns, attachment needs, protective strategies, and nervous system responses that shape how people relate under stress.
Couples therapy may be for you if you wish to:
Purpose.
Approach.
Sometimes, it is one person in the relationship who advocates for therapy. That is okay. Whatever brings you here - whether it’s a shared desire for change or one person's brave nudge - showing up is the most important part.
My approach to couples therapy is based on Emotion-Focussed Therapy (EFT); this evidence-based approach looks to the neurobiology of attachment and the biological necessity of feeling safe in our core relationships.
Together, we look past the high-conflict moments and the painful silences to understand the underlying emotional signals that tell us whether we are truly seen and valued.
By gently mapping the repetitive patterns of pursuit and withdrawal that keep you at a distance, we work to dissolve defensiveness and make room for a deeper, more vulnerable way of relating. My role is to provide a soft, non-judgmental sanctuary where you can explore these attachment longings and fears, ultimately transforming your relationship into a secure base that fosters mutual healing, renewed intimacy, and a lasting sense of belonging.
Process.
Following a short discovery call (which you can book here), we will both have the opportunity to reflect if we are a good fit to work together. There is no obligation following the call, so please enter lightly knowing you have time to make a decision.
If we proceed, you will receive a link to book a full length session, which typically lasts 75mins.
I recommend to enter this process imagining a minimum of 6 weekly or fortnightly sessions so we are able to build safety and begin de-escalating the cycle you’re in. However, the total number and cadence is open, we will find what suits you right now and work with that.
Rather than being indefinitely on-going, our intention is for the working relationship to find a natural close.
Frequently asked questions
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Relationship distress is, at its core, a survival response. When we feel disconnected from our person, our nervous system enters a state of "primal panic." EFT is the gold standard for relationship change because it doesn't just manage conflict; it reshapes the emotional bond. By focusing on the neurobiology of attachment, we address the root cause of the "loop" you find yourselves in. When the bond is secure, the "problems" you once fought over become much easier to navigate together.
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I welcome all relationship configurations. My focus is on the attachment bond and the unique emotional landscape between the people involved, regardless of the structure. All identities and ways of loving are honoured.
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It is very common for one partner to feel more ready than the other. My role is not to take sides, to find a wrong party, or to force a specific outcome. I provide a compassionate, safe sanctuary where everyone’s perspective is heard and valued. We move at a pace that feels safe for everyone involved, honouring the courage it takes to show up even when you are uncertain.
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You can first book a chemistry call/initial consultation (online) appointment. This will give us a chance to decide whether we can work together and if we should continue.
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Yes. Online and in-person sessions are both offered. When booking, you’ll be able to select the which you prefer.
There may be time when only online sessions are offered, this will be visible before booking.
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I have extensive experience in trauma informed support across multiple specialities, including;
Compassionate Inquiry (a modality designed and instructed by Dr Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur);
Emotions Focussed Therapy (EFT);Psychedelic care;
Hostile and Conflict environments;
Mental health (with Postpartum Support International); and
Somatic modalities as a qualified yoga and meditation instructor.
As I come from outside the psychotherapy field, my services do not include diagnosis or treatment of psychological conditions.
You are welcome to read more about my background here.
Testimonials
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“We felt like we were speaking different languages. Kate helped us find the common ground again. We finally feel like we're on the same team.”
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“As a non-traditional couple, we were worried about being judged. Instead, we found a space that was incredibly inclusive and deeply insightful.”
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“Kate helped us understand the ‘why’ behind the fighting and the problems. It has changed how we interact every single day.”