Couples Therapy
& Relationship Therapy
In my approach, couples therapy (or Paartherapie/marriage counselling) is understood as relationship therapy; applicable to all relationship constellations, inclusive of all identities, and sensitive to cultural differences. This support is offered online & in person in Berlin, as well as online in English for people based internationally.
See each other’s inner worlds with more empathy, allowing you to respond with choice rather than falling into automatic, protective patterns
Find safety to talk openly and honestly about things that feel vulnerable or difficult to name
Develop ways of staying connected when conversations become charged, tender, or intense
Strengthen your relationship through transitions, stress, or change
(Re)discover a deep, vibrant emotional and physical connection
Move past circular arguments and understand the deeper emotional triggers happening underneath
Understand why minor interactions escalate quickly into shutdown, anger, or defensiveness
Stop editing yourself or staying quiet to keep the peace, only to find that the distance between you is growing
Transition from feeling distant to seen, heard, and emotionally met
Build trust, safety, or connection after rupture, betrayal, or a painful transition
The purpose of couples therapy / relationship therapy is not to determine who is right or wrong, or to fix one person for the sake of the relationship.
Instead, couples therapy /relationship therapy creates a space to slow down and understand what is happening within the relationship system: the emotional patterns, attachment needs, protective strategies, and nervous system responses that shape how people relate under stress.
Couples therapy /relationship therapy may be for you if you wish to:
Purpose.
Approach.
Sometimes, it is one person in the relationship who advocates for therapy. That is okay. Whatever brings you here - whether it’s a shared desire for change or one person's brave nudge - showing up is the most important part.
My approach to couples therapy is based on Emotionally-Focussed Therapy (EFT); this evidence-based approach looks to the neurobiology of attachment and the biological necessity of feeling safe in our core relationships.
Together, we look past the high-conflict moments and the painful silences to understand the underlying emotional signals that tell us whether we are truly seen and valued.
By gently mapping the repetitive patterns of pursuit and withdrawal that keep you at a distance, we work to dissolve defensiveness and make room for a deeper, more vulnerable way of relating. My role is to provide a soft, non-judgmental space where you can explore these attachment longings and fears, ultimately transforming your relationship into a secure base that fosters mutual healing, renewed intimacy, and a lasting sense of belonging.
Process.
Following a short discovery call (which you can book here), we will both have the opportunity to reflect if we are a good fit to work together. There is no obligation following the call, so please enter lightly knowing you have time to make a decision.
If we proceed, you will receive a link to book a full length session, which typically lasts 60-80mins.
We will begin with 3 session but the total number and cadence is open. As a guide, my clients generally find it most beneficial to meet 12+ times over 4+ months.
The standard rate for our time together is €150 per hour. If this rate is currently a barrier for you, please get in touch so we can explore options together.
Rather than being indefinitely on-going, our intention is for the working relationship to find a natural close.
Frequently asked questions
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Relationship distress is, at its core, a survival response. When we feel disconnected from our person, our nervous system enters a state of panic. EFT is the gold standard for relationship change because it doesn't just manage conflict; it reshapes the emotional bond. By focusing on the neurobiology of attachment, we address the root cause of the loop you find yourselves in. When the bond is secure, the issues you once fought over or triggered each other with become much easier to navigate together.
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I welcome all relationship configurations. My focus is on the attachment bond and the unique emotional landscape between the people involved, regardless of the structure. All identities and ways of loving are honoured.
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That’s perfectly OK. We move at a pace that feels safe for everyone involved, honouring the courage it takes to show up even when you are uncertain.
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You can first book a chemistry call/initial consultation (online) appointment. This will give us a chance to decide whether we can work together and if we should continue.
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Yes. Online and in-person sessions are both offered. When booking, you’ll be able to select which you prefer.
There may be times when only online sessions are offered, this will be visible before booking.
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I have extensive experience in trauma informed support across multiple specialities, including;
Compassionate Inquiry (a modality designed and instructed by Dr Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur);
Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy (EFT);Psychedelic care;
Hostile and Conflict environments;
Mental health (with Postpartum Support International); and
Somatic modalities as a qualified yoga and meditation instructor.
As I come from outside the psychotherapy field, my services do not include diagnosis or treatment of psychological conditions.
You are welcome to read more about my background here.
Testimonials
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“We felt like we were speaking different languages. Kate helped us find the common ground again. We finally feel like we're on the same team.”
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“As a non-traditional couple, we were worried about being judged. Instead, we found a space that was incredibly inclusive and deeply insightful.”
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“Kate helped us understand the ‘why’ behind the fighting and the problems. It has changed how we interact every single day.”